As I was reading "The Bluest Eye" by Tori Morrison, I came across a part at the very first few pages where the narrator puked on the bed and the mother got upset. As the mother was cleaning up the puke from the pillow and sheets, she keeps on prattling about how inconvenient and unnecessary the puke on the bed is. Through this, I was reminded how sometimes when my mom critiques me, she gets progressively angrier the more she talks about the matter. This also happened to me when I was trying to console a parent who thought that their child was mistreated in the school tennis team. I call this the self enrage phenomenon. Being on the receiving end of this phenomenon, I find it annoying and extremely unfair because it shows the lack of control in emotions the individual on the giving end possesses. What was simple critiquing is now the person venting and raging on the poor victim. Sadly, it's human nature to be emotional, thus there is no way around it but to just take the hits.
Interesting photo. I think perhaps the spiral of increasing anger is caused by the human's desire to get some form of reaction. If no such reaction is triggered, the person increases their level of anger until such a reaction is eventually caused or until the angry person gives up.
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